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21 Days Part 3: Time to add a few new habits to MY LIFE!

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Another 21 days has come and gone and now it is time to add a few more things to my daily task list.

From September 14th-October 4th, my daily tasks will be the following:

  1. Read Devotional, journal, and pray
  2. Recite Daily Affirmation
  3. Call 2 people a day to develop relationship
  4. Post daily to craigslist about my business
  5. Listen to MLM Nation
  6. Blog Daily
  7. Post to Facebook daily, like and comment on my news feed, send 10 messages to 10 friends. Like and comment on my MLM Business page as well.
  8. Exercise 30 minutes a day
  9. Go for 30 No’s a day
  10. Acting: Work on my monologues for auditions

The tasks in Bold are the new tasks for the next 21 Days. What started as 5 new habits two months ago is going to grow to 10 within the next 21 days. This is what it takes to make changes in your life. Work on the small things a little at a time and you will see changes. You have to take action to make yourself be the person you want to be!

Hope this helps!!

Dominique Duarte

Magnetic Communication Part 1-Simon Chan: MY NOTES

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Simon Chan tells about how he was really shy growing up and had a hard time communicating with people. I too, have struggled with talking to people. He even mentions that not taking the time to communicate and not listening when communicating is bad communication. I am guilty of both. I have gotten so caught up in my own world, that I didn’t take time to talk to people and when I did talk to people, I mostly talked about myself. It’s easy to talk about yourself, especially when that is who you spend most of your time with. I spent most of my time alone as a child, teen, and a young adult. I didn’t have many friends and it wasn’t because people didn’t like me. I think people liked me, but they didn’t really know me well. I didn’t give them a chance to know me and mostly, I didn’t take time to get to know them.

I began calling two people a day almost two months ago so I could ask people how they were doing. It seemed to make them feel good. The best communicators are those who listen to other people. I still make mistakes when talking to people. I catch myself rambling and I think it is a nervous habit because I want to be interesting to other people and I want them to like me. The reality is if I would listen to other people and let them talk, I would be the most interesting person to other people. I never thought about that until recently. Take time to listen to others because everyone just wants to be heard in this world. Listening is a skill and the only way to improve a skill is to practice it. In order to practice listening, you have to talk to more people throughout your day.

Communication Skills

Importance of Communication

-Good Communication: Leads to Happier Life; Better relationships

-Growing up shy & not able to communicate

-Poor Communication leads to problems and conflicts

-Poor Communication causes misunderstanding and judgement (not taking the time to communicate, not taking the time to “listen” when you communicate)

-Listening is the Key to Communication

-Best part of network marketing is it FORCES you to learn how to communicate

-Prospecting, sponsoring, and leading your team is all about communication

-Getting out of your comfort zone & learning to communicate

-Must learn basics of communication to prospect and build your network marketing business

-Basic Communication- you can talk to prospects

-As you get better- do presentations and trainings

-Using Communication Skills to inspire and help others in your community.

Basic Rules of Communication

-You Must really care about others.

-The best communicators are the best leaders.

-Prospecting is all about finding out about your prospects needs and how you can help them.

-Be a good listener, not a good talker

-Goal: Find any way to help someone, not necessarily just for your business. This forces you to listen more and provide value, especially when meeting new people. This also allows you to find the needs of a prospect and which prospect angle is best.

-Smile! Always smile, even when you are on the phone. People can “hear” the smile.

-Law of Attraction- you attract what you are. If you are happy and positive, those will be the prospects you attract.

-Never complain, nor gossip.

-Feeds negative energy into your mind and messes up your subconscious mind.

-If you are a negative person or tend to complain and gossip, no prospect will want to listen, nor join you!

Reading the Prospect

-Learn to read the prospect and find a prospects’ real concerns and needs.

-If a prospect is only interested in products, don’t go and talk business! (& vice versa)

-Ways to “read” the prospects:

  • Facial expressions
  • Words they say
  • How they say the words (tone, volume, speed)

You always want to read the prospect. Face to Face is Best; Phone is 2nd Best and emails and texting are terrible.

-REALLY REALLY LISTEN!

-Listening reveals what prospects’ real needs & concerns are

-Voice inflection: “I did not say John beat his wife” This sentence has 8 different meanings depending on voice inflection. (You’ll never be able to get this in an email or text)

-Always READ the prospect

-Goal is to find something to help them

-Must present something that fits THEIR interest

People Must Like You

-People buy from people they like,

-You must make prospects like you.

2 Ways to Get People to Like You

-Letting them talk and vent (be a good listener!)

-Establish commonality

Letting Others Talk & Vent

Everyone wants to feel important

Everyone wants to be heard

Everyone likes to talk

But the people they talk to ALWAYS want to talk and be heard. So there is always a conflict.

An immediate way to stand out and get someone to like you is to Let them talk!

Let them feel important.. hear them out.. let them vent.

The more they talk, the more they like you!

And remember, the MORE they like you, the greater the chance they will join you or buy your products.

Establish Commonality

-People like people who are in commonality, we gravitate towards people who are similar to us or have similar interests.

-So talk & share things that you have in common with prospect.

-But you Must Listen First!

-Talking about common things makes you a better communicator.

21 Days of Habits

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I read that it takes 21 days to create a new habit, so I have finally been able to create a system to create small changes in my life. I posted this list in my room where I could see it everyday.

Starting July 14th, I began 5 small habits, and did them for 21 days.

  1. Read devotional and pray.
  2. Say my daily affirmation
  3. Call 2 people a day to develop a relationship
  4. Post daily to Craigslist about my business
  5. Watch a Ted Talk

After I had done this for 21 days, I kept doing them, and then I decided to add 2 more things on August 10th. This is 21 Days Part 2.

  1. Read devotional and pray
  2. Say my daily affirmation
  3. Call 2 people a day to develop a relationship
  4. Post daily to Craigslist about my business
  5. Watch a Ted Talk
  6. Blog My Notes Daily
  7. Post to Facebook daily, like and comment on my news feed, send 10 messages to 10 friends. Like and comment on the MLM Business page as well.

After August 30th, I will add a couple more things. So basically every 21 days, I will add something new to the list of things to do. This method of creating new habits will develop my network marketing business, but will always help me in several different areas of my life. It will change my career in musical theatre, my health, my relationships with other people, my spiritual life, and my overall confidence in myself. I think this method is great for anyone who wants to make changes in their lives.

I suggest you start small and continually add on new habits every 21 days. Mark your calendar with X’s each day that you do the activities on your list and don’t break the chain.

If you want to make major changes in your life, you will never just wake up one day and suddenly be different. You have to work on yourself daily to make permanent changes in your life. Focus on a few things at a time and don’t try to change everything at once.

I hope this helps!!

Dominique Duarte

Writing a Daily Affirmation

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One of my friends told me that she wrote a daily affirmation to say to herself everyday. I had never thought to do this, but I think it helps you to start your day with the right mindset. Many network marketers have stated in books and videos that they do something everyday to work on themselves so I suggest writing a daily affirmation. You can use books with daily affirmations, but I think it becomes more personal when you write your affirmation yourself. Only you know the person that you want to become and only you know the negative thoughts that you have been speaking to yourself and if you say a daily affirmation, you are talking to your sub-conscious mind as well. Change is difficult because we say we want to change but our sub-conscious mind does not want to change. We have many negative thoughts about ourselves and we have probably been feeding those negative thoughts for years. Speak good things about yourself regularly and catch yourself when you are not being kind to yourself. Be a good friend by being compassionate to yourself. So let’s get started everyone!

First, write down what you value and what person you would like to become. Then, write your daily affirmation. Post your daily affirmation where you can see it everyday. Recite the affirmation in the mirror in power stance with hands on your hips. Recite it with confidence and speak those words as if you truly believe them even if you don’t right now. One day you will believe those words and will be that person that you envision in your affirmation. Below is the daily affirmation I have said to myself since July 14, 2015:

“This is the day the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad in it. I am beautiful, talented, and committed to pursuing my goals. I will push past my fears to help other people overcome their fears and uplift their spirits. I will be a servant to others. I love the Lord, myself, and others wholeheartedly. I will meet my challenges, fulfill my purpose, have a positive attitude, choose to do the right things, believe in myself and others. I will commit to fulfilling my purpose during my time here on earth.

Ladies and gentleman, I am not the person in this affirmation yet, but I will keep saying this everyday so that I become the person that I hope to become someday.

Hope this helps! Be Blessed.

Dominique Duarte