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MY WHY

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If you are in network marketing and you want to be really successful at your business, you should figure out your why and write it down where you can see it all the time.  Your why makes you push past your fears and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Your why could be as simple as saving for a car or as big as buying your parents a house. Your why is used to keep you motivated daily.

MY WHY

I want to be financially free. This is My Why.  Being financially free can make your future brighter and inspire others to do the same. I worked as a full-time teacher for about a month and a half in 2014. This was my first and only full-time job and it will be my last full-time job. The pay was great for a single person, but they wanted you to work on all these projects in addition to teaching 6-7 classes a day. The pay was not worth what they were asking me to do. My leadership was disorganized and this made me see that I didn’t want to work for other people. I wanted to work for myself and I wanted to keep it that way.

I started my own business as a voice teacher and I had more success with this than I had when I was searching for jobs for a almost a year and a half. My marketing for the business helped me get a job as an independent contractor at a local private school. It also helped me teach vocal lessons to students in the community.

I love having my own business because I made more money, worked fewer hours and still got to perform on stage, which is my dream. However, I know that I cannot support myself for the future with this business. My business has helped me pay my bills and support myself month to month, but I am still living paycheck to paycheck. Many Americans live this way and it is not a great way to live, especially when emergencies happen or when you want to retire in the future.

I realized that if I work my network marketing business consistently, I can still work on my own time and perform professionally in musical theatre.  If an emergency occurs, I could pay my doctor bills with no problem. I am going to make a  seven figure income so that I can support myself without worries and inspire others to do the same so that they can change their lives forever. I believe I can do this, but this belief didn’t happen overnight.

I have had to work on my personal development by reading books, watching videos, listening to audios in my car, and writing in my journal. I’ve done this over the course of the last year. I am formerly shy and I will be successful at my business. Anyone can be successful at network marketing, but you have to change your mindset.  Network marketing is not a get rich quick scheme. If you are serious about changing your life, you have to work on yourself, remove yourself from negative people, and build relationships with people daily. As my sponsor says “What do you want your Monday’s to look like? Begin dreaming again.”

I hope this helps you with your business,

Dominique Duarte

My MLM Journey So Far…

Singing an aria or song in front of a crowd was a piece a cake compared to talking to people on the phone or in person. I felt alot like Dorothy in “The Wiz” when it came to network marketing. I was scared!!

Hello, My name is Dominique Duarte and I am a  performer, music teacher, and a network marketer. There I said it. This was not easy for me to say. I have been in network marketing for awhile, but my fears have really held me back. It’s funny because a few of my closest friends, who I talk to regularly had no idea I had been doing network marketing until last week. That is how you know your fear is strong because you don’t even mention it to your best friends. I was scared and I didn’t know how people would perceive my new business venture. I cared what people thought and it hindered my progress in this industry.

When I graduated college, I had a hard time finding a job, so I decided to sell insurance. I liked the idea of a large income for hard work, but I didn’t have the confidence. A woman at the insurance company was a Mary Kay distributor and she pressured me into joining Mary Kay. I really did say “No”, but she would not take it for an answer and I wasn’t great at standing up for myself, so I signed up. This type of recruiting is not the best way to get prospects to join your team by the way. I didn’t really wear much make-up and I dropped out of the company and got a full refund for my products. During this time I had no idea that Mary Kay was network marketing. I was 23 and I didn’t know what network marketing was at all.

At the end of that same year, I was introduced to another company and this time I found out what network marketing was. There was nothing wrong with this company, except that to really get in the business for real you needed to pay $1500, plus tax. I tried selling many things to get this money and I did not get enough. I ended up getting in as silver and not gold. I stayed in this company for about a year, but I didn’t do much activity. I was scared and I just didn’t know how to talk to people. I will say that the company I joined did teach me about personal development and I did begin reading books and I have probably been reading those books for about a year now.

Earlier this year, my friend, now my sponsor, introduced me to a company relatively new to the United States. I thought this company had a better variety of products and I tried the flagship product and it worked. I thought “Sure I will join this company and it will be great, I just have to share my story.” Wrong. I was still scared and it wasn’t that easy for me to tell other people about my testimony. It was even harder to tell my family and friends because I really feared talking to them about this business for fear of rejection.

Meanwhile, I had started my own business teaching vocal lessons. I got a part-time teaching job through my business and I was making enough to support myself, which was great. I had experienced working for other people when I worked temporarily as a full-time public school teacher and it was awful. When I experienced having my own business, I realized that I don’t want to work for other people. However, my small business will never let me be financially free. If I miss a check or two or an emergency happens, I don’t have too much money left over.

I really believed in network marketing, and the company, but I didn’t believe in myself. When you don’t believe in yourself, it doesn’t matter what company you join, you will not have much success.

The Game changer occurred for me, when I was hired to perform in Little Rock this summer at a professional dinner theatre. It gave me a chance to get away from home, which I hadn’t done since I had graduated college and it gave me free time to work on myself. I read that it takes 21 days to create a new habit. So I worked on 5 small habits, including calling 2 people a day to see how they were doing and did it for 21 days. Now, I have been doing this for 39 days and it gave me the courage to begin doing launch calls for my business. This required contacting my family and friends and this was the scariest thing for me to do, and it wasn’t easy, but I did it and that means that I can do this business. MLM is about overcoming your fears, so you can help other people overcome their fears and by the grace of God, I will be successful at this and help others do the same so they can be financially free.

I hope this gives you courage to overcome your fears!

Dominique Duarte

The Four Year Career- My Notes

Four Year

Network Marketing Qualities

-You must be assertive

-You must have confidence

-You must be dynamic in your ability to express yourself.

-You must have enough resources to propel yourself through the challenges.

-Any art requires 10,000 hours of actual practice to master it. That’s 2 hours a day, six days a week, 50 weeks a year for the Four Year Career.

Network Marketing Terms

Wholesale Customer- someone who gets involved to use the products and buy them at the same price that higher-volume distributors would pay.

Retailer- a distributor who focuses their efforts on just selling the products.

Network Marketing Leader- wholesale customer, a retailer, and someone who understands the income opportunity well enough to add selling it to their mix. Can enroll as many as 100 people or more. You must be able to enroll lots of people to sell with you and motivate the group to continue growing.

Network Marketing is using and recommending the product and finding many others who do the same.

Three Basic Activities Required to Create Your Four Year Career

  1. Use: Use company’s products in as many way as possible. Create your own best product story, then you won’t be selling, just telling your story.
  2. Recommend: Don’t sell the product here. Listen to the people around you and listen to their problems. Let them decide if it is right for them. Don’t sell or argue with customers, just recommend it. This is how successful Network Marketers establish lots of customers over time without being a nuisance.
  3. Invite: this is like recommending the product, only you are inviting them to “just” take a look at the income opportunity using tools such as a brochure or website.

Master of inviting = Mastering the Four Year Career

Keys to being an effective inviter:

-Be convinced yourself in your product, company & network marketing

-Be interesting- Ask curiosity questions & listen. Make it all about them and they will be honored and become interested in you.

-Mastery comes with practice: 10,00 hours of practice might convert to 5,000 conversations over four years.

-You are not in the game unless you are inviting new people to look everyday, every week.

-Stop thinking, worrying, avoiding it and getting organized to do it. Take action! Two a day and 10 in play is the perfect plan. Invite 2 new people everyday and follow-up on the last 10 you invited until they say “Yes” or “No”.

Writing a Daily Affirmation

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One of my friends told me that she wrote a daily affirmation to say to herself everyday. I had never thought to do this, but I think it helps you to start your day with the right mindset. Many network marketers have stated in books and videos that they do something everyday to work on themselves so I suggest writing a daily affirmation. You can use books with daily affirmations, but I think it becomes more personal when you write your affirmation yourself. Only you know the person that you want to become and only you know the negative thoughts that you have been speaking to yourself and if you say a daily affirmation, you are talking to your sub-conscious mind as well. Change is difficult because we say we want to change but our sub-conscious mind does not want to change. We have many negative thoughts about ourselves and we have probably been feeding those negative thoughts for years. Speak good things about yourself regularly and catch yourself when you are not being kind to yourself. Be a good friend by being compassionate to yourself. So let’s get started everyone!

First, write down what you value and what person you would like to become. Then, write your daily affirmation. Post your daily affirmation where you can see it everyday. Recite the affirmation in the mirror in power stance with hands on your hips. Recite it with confidence and speak those words as if you truly believe them even if you don’t right now. One day you will believe those words and will be that person that you envision in your affirmation. Below is the daily affirmation I have said to myself since July 14, 2015:

“This is the day the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad in it. I am beautiful, talented, and committed to pursuing my goals. I will push past my fears to help other people overcome their fears and uplift their spirits. I will be a servant to others. I love the Lord, myself, and others wholeheartedly. I will meet my challenges, fulfill my purpose, have a positive attitude, choose to do the right things, believe in myself and others. I will commit to fulfilling my purpose during my time here on earth.

Ladies and gentleman, I am not the person in this affirmation yet, but I will keep saying this everyday so that I become the person that I hope to become someday.

Hope this helps! Be Blessed.

Dominique Duarte

Chalene Johnson Confidence Webinar- MY NOTES

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  1. Release the Label: Don’t say “I’m Shy,” but say “I am formerly shy.”
  2. Understand Your Personality Style: Know the difference between being shy and being an introvert. Introverts can talk to people and be social, but it drains his/her energy. Shy people are  afraid of talking to other people. Extroverts enjoy the energy of people in the room. Shyness is cute when you are a child, but not when you are an adult.
  3. Change Your Body Language: Smile and make people feel good around you; Open your body up to be more inviting to  other people.
  4. Improve your Communication Style: Be quietly confident and be aware of other people. Wait & listen; Don’t lead with the negative, take compliments, avoid incessantly apologizing, know that what you have to say is important and just say it; speak up because your opinion matters. God gave you a voice and your opinion matters.
  5. Use a Confident Voice: drop the octave, sound like you can take control. Imitate the voice of another to work on improving your own voice.
  6. Use Confident Facial Expressions: Listen and engage; Ask yourself what questions you can ask people. Don’t look uninterested.
  7. Get Out of Your Head and into Their Heart. Most people have the same thoughts you have when in social settings. How can I help people feel more comfortable? Prepare a list of questions to help when approaching other people.

Lastly, Confident People are:

-Outgoing

-Sociable

-Always smiling

-Make others feel comfortable

-Down to earth

-Accepting of others

-Interested in people

-Make people feel good about themselves