How to be Confident & Have Humility


Book Suggestion: Confident Humility: Becoming Your Full Self without Becoming Full of Yourself:

I hope you guys are remaining safe and sane during these times. For anyone that has lost loved ones or has sick family and friends, you are all in my thoughts and prayers.

This quarantine has given me so much time to reflect and spend time with the Lord. I have been reading devotionals on You Version about confidence and being a woman of purpose. Through these devotionals, I discovered that I can be prideful often. It’s so easy for me to think that I am better than someone else because of their actions and this is not Godly at all. Honestly, I can be really judgmental and I am becoming more aware of it through prayer. I am a sinner and we all are, but when you find Christ, your goal is to move away from sinful actions. I confess and repent, but I still struggle with my flesh daily.  I have dealt with an inferiority complex since I was quite young, so I never viewed myself as prideful. Self-deprecation was my middle name and at times it still is.

The question is how do you balance having confidence without being prideful and having humility without being self-deprecating? Pride becomes an issue when you want to be right all the time. I try to be more cognizant of my thoughts. I try to think first before I speak and try to understand that everyone’s journey is unique. So maybe that person’s decision didn’t make sense to me, but it’s not about me. I haven’t walked a day in that person shoes, so what makes me so special that I have the audacity to condemn that person.  I make so many mistakes and have made many poor decisions. However, I have also made great decisions for myself, that others still criticize to this day. Humility is referred to in Luke 14:11

11 For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”

As far a confidence goes, you have to find this in the Lord and not within yourself. Remember that God created you flaws and all, but He brought you here for a purpose and you are meant to fulfill His will for your life. Your existence is not in vain and you have to fight the negative thoughts of the enemy daily. Find strength and hope through the Lord. This is where true confidence exists, it is through Jesus.

Whether you believe in the Lord or not, I suggest writing positive things about yourself and posting the notes in your home. When you get a negative thought, reflect on it and counter it with a positive thought. The mind is powerful and can take you down some dark holes, if you let it. Thirties friends, the line between humility and pride is thicker than we think. Focus on doing the right thing and you will find humility. Focus on your purpose in life and you will find confidence.

Hope this helps,

Dominique Duarte

What does being confident mean to you? What does humility mean to you? Comment below!