- Release the Label: Don’t say “I’m Shy,” but say “I am formerly shy.”
- Understand Your Personality Style: Know the difference between being shy and being an introvert. Introverts can talk to people and be social, but it drains his/her energy. Shy people are afraid of talking to other people. Extroverts enjoy the energy of people in the room. Shyness is cute when you are a child, but not when you are an adult.
- Change Your Body Language: Smile and make people feel good around you; Open your body up to be more inviting to other people.
- Improve your Communication Style: Be quietly confident and be aware of other people. Wait & listen; Don’t lead with the negative, take compliments, avoid incessantly apologizing, know that what you have to say is important and just say it; speak up because your opinion matters. God gave you a voice and your opinion matters.
- Use a Confident Voice: drop the octave, sound like you can take control. Imitate the voice of another to work on improving your own voice.
- Use Confident Facial Expressions: Listen and engage; Ask yourself what questions you can ask people. Don’t look uninterested.
- Get Out of Your Head and into Their Heart. Most people have the same thoughts you have when in social settings. How can I help people feel more comfortable? Prepare a list of questions to help when approaching other people.
Lastly, Confident People are:
-Outgoing
-Sociable
-Always smiling
-Make others feel comfortable
-Down to earth
-Accepting of others
-Interested in people
-Make people feel good about themselves
